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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2018 6:56 pm
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And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

The Fun Stuff - about me

On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2018
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
Photo time Male nude partial nude d15c
A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

Virtual Symposium
1st time for the 12th VS International Intrigue -- 13th Virtual world and blogs -- 14th vs First dates
15th VS Black and White __ 16th vs Casual relationships __17th The First Time __18th VS Its a Secret&vs18its a secret__19thVS Its science time__20thVS My life as a __VS23 Dreams

Ponderings
Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
world of words __ Logical right__Friday __ What kind of style
Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding


Just for daily FUN
Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
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Sinday coffee and kink
Posted:Nov 18, 2018 10:15 am
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2018 7:56 pm
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Aka BDSM, bondage discipline sadomasochism or bondage domination submission SadoMasochism... depends on who you ask.

Lets just say that having interests outside the mainstream vanilla has not made my search any easier. Lol. No kidding eh.

Years n years ago I seen an ad in my dads porno mag about bdsm and that sparked an interest that has been around for 35 or so years now.
Then the showcase mini series on satellite called 'kink' had me hooked. I had to sneak downstairs late at night and watch it with the sound turned way down. BUT it was soo exciting! And back then I did not have easy access to a big city nor had internet so my search for more information was frustrating to say the least. Even when I did travel to Vancouver I struggled to find others as this was still back when it was more underground and you needed to know someone who knew someone that would maybe invite you to a party.
Even then the underground newspapers catered to select crowds, and being Vancouver it was mainly aimed at the gay community.

Nowadays you can easily find info and events with a click of a mouse.

You would think that being kink positive would make finding men easier but it only made it far more difficult... for many reasons.

Anyhoo,
I do have a range of kinks and fetishes that I enjoy but I consider myself more of a Top rather than a domme. Mainly because I have a tough time finding partners so don't have the experience to call myself a domme. That is my view on it, I'm sure I could slap a label on myself and bark orders like seemingly many of the younger "dommes/mistresses" that I see on fet. Lol

Like any 'trade' I want to build the skills and master them. And that's the other side of my frustrating search - looking for a male bodied person to practice bondage on. Its just practice because I need to work on my skillz. Its not some free pro domme session where I give you your laundry list of do-me fantasies on a nsa/anonymous basis. Before the fuckboys and hookup guys freak out, again , many kinksters do not mix sex with kink unless it is with thier established partner and even then it may not even be a part of thier scene at all and reserved for another time.

I do know I'm tired of explaining this to the hookup guys what I am looking for in terms of kink friendly partners. That now I only do kinky shit when its a public event, and its pretty much the only time I will talk about my interests around bdsm.
Lessons learned to keep my searches vanilla.

I do keep my interests active by reading and collecting the books available! I still order the leather gear maybe once or twice a year.
But for now it's all just going to stay in the underground when I meet new men, again lessons learned with that.

Lets see
Why I also became interested in kink, I got bored of plain penis in vagina sex.
It has its place in relationship sex, but seriously there is far more to explore than just 3 min of foreplay, 30 seconds of oral, then 2-5 min of piv, role over then sleep.

Theres a whole world of sensations and pleasures to explore.... but that's just me thinkin that, I'm sure many are fine with the 3-30-5.

Anyway, and then,
Coffee is done, time to go chop more firewood and then figure out how to hang kitchen cabinets.

Enjoy your sinday
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No shave November 😁
Posted:Nov 16, 2018 3:00 pm
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2018 8:41 am
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The movember is back, so lets support them the lady way!



Yah....you cant unsee that,

I do like some fur on a man, especially chest hair, happy trails and lightly hairy legs... ok ok I like manfur.
Lol

Its all for a good cause!
Which, men, don't forget to get your prostate checked!

Enjoy the weekend.

I will work on something more entertaining for sinday mornin coffee.
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Thirsty Thursday
Posted:Nov 15, 2018 10:32 am
Last Updated:Nov 16, 2018 2:02 pm
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So sexy bloggers seeings how this site promises you to get laid tonight and even sells tricks on how grandpa fucks 18 yr bitches all the time ...

Is this site trying to cater to someone like me that is looking for the better experience and hot passionate kinky sex:


Is it meant to target someone like me, a 44 yr female that is now at the bottom of the dating food chain, where we are lucky to get noticed at all.

I haven't bothered to click on the ad, but I imagine its just another hookup site, but the marketing is promising to bring desire back meaning hot passionate sex with men that actually like women (I know stretching it and embellishing). But it's still selling me the fantasy of a mutually pleasurable night.
Kinda like how the E site and match both sell relationship fantasies yet they are still full of people looking for nsa sex.
Wait wait, I have written on how online 'dating/meeting' sites are designed to keep you single and clicking n clicking n clicking....

So ya... just yet another site to look at with the same 200 people as on the other sites. Lol

I do encourage the local kinksters to put on more meet n greet nights that way you can get out from behind the screen and chat with real life people,.... but alas its mainly women that show up, and maybe one or two swinging dicks over 40 that are hunting for the under 25 yr sub chicks.. Lol

But I do wonder about the 'experience desire' again, does that site put effort into screening its men so theres a better quality to search through
That would be a difficult task though because it would mean they would have to answer some sort of questionnaire honestly about thier view of women and sex. Lol

Ah well, such is life and all that jazz (not jizz).
I try and promote more face to face gatherings but its still only the very attractive women that benefit from it.

And the search goes on n on n on n on n on n on n on......

Sexy bloggers,
I know many are on other sites looking for love, dating or relationship, nsa, anonymous sex, do you have better luck on those sites?

Define 'luck' however you choose.
Are you the grandpa that they write about, the one that fucks all those young bitches?
Or are you the one that doesnt want to.kill his wife so he looks on other sites for young chicks into nsa?
Or the one that finds 'desire' in the arms of nsa sex?
Or are you the virtual reality person with the size fetish?
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Add a post on a Tuesday
Posted:Nov 13, 2018 2:30 pm
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2018 8:35 am
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Somedays I tend to forget that my sexual adventures over the years may be a bit out there for a few, nothing illegal but far more kinkier than some of the stories I've listened to. And I'm sure theres plenty I havent tried yet, in fact I know there are some things I want to try with an established partner.

Anyway,
Sitting here eating my daily yogurt and flipping thru my pics, I come across this one I had saved from a vanilla blog site.

So I'm at 66 yrs. Lol. But because I am drug free (the rarest person from BC you will ever meet).

When my sex kink list is hovering around DVDP and 5m1F all holes open.... and mmf with my strapon, and sensual massage leading to passionate sex. Stag/vixen is currently on my hot list.
So I guess sex in the rain would be up there for some, same with oral sex. (Which is a strange thought because I have an oral fixation on cock, I have to remember that some don't care for it).

Fantasies and desires can be really hot, but some days they should be kept in your head and left there. Lol

Anyhoo.....yogurt is done, back to reality.
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Sinday in the badlands
Posted:Nov 11, 2018 7:11 pm
Last Updated:Nov 17, 2018 9:16 am
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It was a busy one with yard work and stuffs around the farm.
No hot dates on a long weekend but did get a message or two from the drive thru guys but they don't count.

The photos came in the other day and definitely a few worked out better than expected.



Of course many I can not share publicly but those I shared with the vanilla friend and he thought they where hot. The ones on the kink site didnt gather much interest but more because I don't hookup on there plus I'm over 35. Lol
And I cant even use those photos on the dating site, lol, so I will just stick to selfies on there.

Obviously my kink search has been a dead end on this site also, so showing those pics wouldn't make sense on here.
But the lingerie pics will work on this site, we are going to try those again because the sheen from the black sheer didnt really work out in the photos...and the prop was a little awkward to shoot on. But there is always a next time.

So apart from my adding mulch to the gardens, putting stuff away, chopping a box of kindling, I was pondering over fitting more exercise into my daily schedule especially the stretching. Im pretty limber already but can definitely do more pilates for my flexibility in my back.
But I want to get a few more lbs shed before the next set of photos at any rate. Lol

Anyhoo,
How was your day?
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Preview
Posted:Nov 9, 2018 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Nov 13, 2018 9:12 pm
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So the phtoshoot ... lets just say that I had a hard time getting into it, mainly because I've been told over n over that older women arent sexy.
As hard as I tried I couldn't shake that from my mind. So ya, I had a tough time visualizing that " sexy" and 'desirable' in order to 'get in the mood'.

There was the occasional photo that I liked but like a typical photographer he was focused on my face and I was uncomfortable with showing my whole body in the shots. But there are a few that I can share amongst friends and a few that can be posted on my sites.


Plus the super long stint of singlneness did not add help with the visuals. Lol
The photoguy kept trying with encouraging words like "just picture a hot date" or "a nice big cock waiting for you" or "what would turn him on (in terms of date/lover/partner)" .... he was trying until I had to tell him that I've only had sex a few times with 2 different men in the last 5 , and theres no line up beating down my door for kink either. Lol. Then he changed his encouragements to something else. at least he was trying.
... and he wasn't being one of those guys that constantly refer to women and comparing you to them.

I may try and book in a boudoir shoot, but again they like to focus on the face
So I will have to be very clear about not having my face in the pics.
There are photographers out there that are willing to do boudoir photos with women over 40, and there are some that will work with men! (Called dudeoir)
From what I seen those pics can sure make any body type look hot!
From what I have read those photos can really boost you up, heaven knows I some of that right now.

Anyway,
Also didn't really help that I feel under the weather as the flu is going around the office. Lol

I hope to get another chance before the end of the year to get new photos done again. Still need a few more photos for my kink profile.

Sexy bloggers,
Have you had any pro photos done?

Not the selfie types or home pics (unless the other has some good experience with photos).
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Gettin wet
Posted:Nov 6, 2018 1:22 pm
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2018 9:54 am
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Not in the fun way though... lol



Rain rain n more rain here, not sure but at this time of year it should actually be snow n ice by now.

But ya, I wish I was getting wet n dirty right about now, would be a great way to spend an evening this week.
The dating site has been as dead as spawned out salmon floating in the creek... which means, not good.
I am creating a new profile on the kink site to separate my group/community stuff from my personal searches for partners. Which is better than clogging up my friends feed with my comments and ads.

Craving sex, but what else is new. I have received a few messages from younger men on the dating site, but when thier profile photos look too good to be true they are 98%time fake. Hot young very attractive guys online... lol

Anyhoo, just waiting for someone and killin time.

Enjoy your day
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Sinday down on the farm..
Posted:Nov 4, 2018 5:00 pm
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2018 9:16 am
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So the morning started with crepes and the day will end with roast salmon with muchroom couscous.

Lets see, managed to build the cat door (ps, I'm not a carpenter or handyperson) and at least it fits in the window. Just have to pick up some spray foam to finish..... well now I need to make a cat ladder. (Yes the steps to crazy cat lady has begun). Lol

What else
I need to rebuild my front porch and hang some barn door sliders on the bedrooms.... but yanno, I'm working through it.
This afternoon I had to color my hair for the photo shoot this week.
Which, not being fuckable according to many men, check out Amy Schumer's skit on "last fuckable day" w3.comedycentral.co.uk/amy-schumer/articles/you-need-to-rewatch-amy-schumers-last-fuckable-day-sketch



But I will try out that 'feel sexy' thing, and try my best to take some hot photos. Then block every guy with certain profiles that comment on my pics or message.... lol... maybe not but maybe
#NotFuckable
We'll see about that, maybe the younger men will notice the new pics and send me an invite.

And then, its Sinday and now its rainy and cooling off and its dark out and the salmon is starting to smell good....

I am just hoping my work day isn't too long on Thursday because I am having the photos done in the evening.

Back to being a handyperson, next I am hanging birch plywood on my master bedroom ceiling. But i am going to varathane it before I hang it. Lol

Sexy bloggers,
How was your day?
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Just some words
Posted:Nov 3, 2018 10:49 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2018 12:06 pm
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Reclaiming your sexual self is the thought process.

Found words that gave some light to the bad experiences I found with the nsa men:

The solution is to give yourself permission to be playful, to take risks, to be less emotionally intimate and more sexy. For many people, a far greater turn-on than emotional intimacy is feeling desired. "The secret is to forget about doing what you think is normal, and instead embrace whatever it is that makes you feel fun and young and sexy," says Hall. "Feeling desired is a prelude to feeling desire."

-What happened to good sex in hookups...

'that men engaged in hook-ups are less invested in their female partners’ pleasure than they are when in relationships, becoming more attentive and concerned about their partner’s pleasure as the relationship progresses. And that women engaged in hook-ups are less likely to express their desires and advocate for themselves in sex than are women in relationships.

(interesting thoughts)...I want women to have the same sexual freedoms as do men, to feel entitled to whatever sexual desires and pleasures they’re after, to participate in hook-ups if they want. But I also want them to have good sex. And it’s in relationships, not hook-ups, that [all/most] women are [most] likely to find the satisfaction they seek.



So,
That has been proven in my experiences in the last 31 years of having sex between romantic/non-romantic relationships and nsa hookups. Being left sexually frustrated more times than I care to count, leaves me with a huge desire for the better experience with sex. I have had to masturbate 'after sex' far too many times due to ED, too quick, too meh, too whatever was missing, that I stopped meeting altogether and just masturbated instead. Which in turn led to a few issues with excessive masturbation.... but we all know that story.

So the pursuit for the better experience
Won't be found on this site, just sayin that now because the chorus from the peanut party would be 'just hookup'.

Keeping the libido in check means limiting the visual stimulation and distracting my mind from hot thoughts by doing boring things. Lol

Sexy bloggers,
How are you today?
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Date services?
Posted:Nov 2, 2018 1:25 pm
Last Updated:Nov 6, 2018 1:10 pm
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So sexy bloggers do you have dating services in your area?
Kinda like the 'gf/bf experience', where they take you out for a date and actually have a good time. They are actors after all so they would atleast pretend to be having a good time, ... well at least they won't sit there and dumbly look at you with a scowl on thier faces or put very little effort into chatting, and then degrade you when it comes to the sex or put in even less effort.

We don't have services for women here as most assume we should just be happy with the anonymous hookups that are constantly offered.

But even just a date service where its a nice conversation over coffee or drinks, or a hike, or something fun or romantic (if thats your thing). How about sensual massage where he isn't creepy about it or just doesn't target the very attractive women.


Boony'ville does not offer this, but does your city or state offer anything besides nsa hookups?

The weather is doing its BC thing and changing every couple of hours, but after this shitty week I really craving some mental stimulation and to have some faith restored in humanity...well, in mainly men and thier attitudes with older women. . Lol, but not really chuckling...

Touch deprivation becomes real.

Anyhoo,
I just counting down the hrs to the days end.
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Archives...
Posted:Nov 1, 2018 8:41 pm
Last Updated:Nov 2, 2018 4:52 pm
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What are those shows about antique hunters

Cleaning up my kink profile and removing all the sexy photos from it, I seen this great memory....



Ex-mono'partner took that pic.
Not missing him, but missing how open he was to my fantasies and desires. Interestingly enough he was the only one that was supportive that way.

Anyhoo,
I have to borrow a laptop to move a mass amount of photos around.

Still thinkin on what kind of pics I will take next week with the photographer.

Enjoy the thirsty Thursday
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